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The Wind and a Sail Boat

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I enjoy being around any kind of water but it is the ocean where I am drawn to the most. It is the smell of the salty air and the sound of the waves crashing against the beach that even on my grumpiest day I suddenly feel calmer and exhale with a smile.

When I lived by the ocean I enjoyed walking around looking at the boat dock. They had some that were lived in while other boats people just kept tied to the dock for when they wanted to go out on the water. I found the sail boats the most interesting. Some of the sail boats seemed to have never moved and I thought that if I had it I would take the time to use it instead of keeping it docked,  but maybe that’s just because I have always wanted to learn how to sail. The idea of how to use the force of the wind to propel you forward letting it move you seems a little scary but also invigorating.

I think we all at some point can be like those beautiful sail boats that never seemed to have left the dock. Like those boats that were made to have their sails raised to glide through the water capturing the wind, doing what it was made to do.

We were meant to move to fully enjoy life but for what ever reason seem to stay docked at some place in our life for safety. Some place in our life where maybe pain, anger, fear or resentment has kept us docked. God made us beautiful  but if we don’t leave the safety of the harbor we will never experience our true selves. If we stay docked we get rusted from the salt and full of cob webs. Maybe its time to have help getting “our sail boat” sea worthy again so we can be all that we were made for. With prayer and the right people we can get ready to raise our sails and leave the harbor.

Think of it as God is the wind He will be there to be our strength to move us when all we have is just a sail waiting for the power of the wind.



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I was thinking that today’s blog would be something different for me. It is short and to the point.  I decided to go out on a limb and publish a sketch I did of my hand in God’s with a verse that has helped me so much. I keep this in a frame by my bed to remind me that God’s grace is sufficient for me and it is His power that is seen in my weakness. That it is ok to be weak so that I can lean on God so He can be seen.

It has taken something in my health to realize that God hears me and will be with me no matter what is going on. He might not answerer the way I want but He will answer showing His glory. I find that sometimes the answer God gives is that He will calm me while the storm continues around me and in doing that I lean on Him more finding even more peace.


2 Corinthians 12:9 9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.


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Named after the crab from the ocean because it has many stems. It holds up well to foot traffic, can grow in cracks of concrete and is drought tolerant. Just to name a few of the reasons this is such a hardy plant/weed. There are a few different kinds but they all infiltrate and permeate your entire yard.

I remember when I worked in the office for my in-laws lawn business we would have so many customers calling for help to get rid of crabgrass after they had tried everything to get rid of it. Most were willing to pay any price just to get rid of it.

I always wondered what the problem was and when I asked my ex father in-law he would just laugh and act like he couldn’t believe I didn’t see the problem. So I went along and scheduled many jobs for the people who wanted to get rid of it. You can’t just pull on one patch and think you are good, no you have to go through your entire  yard and pull all of it but then it just comes back. The jobs were big and even required a backhoe and fresh fill dirt. After they dug up the whole yard going deep to make sure they got all the roots they would put fresh dirt in then would plant the desired grass, plant or sod making a definite transformation for the better but the home owner wasn’t off the hock they had to be on top of it to make sure there yard stayed nice and crabgrass free.

I know I should probably write a book about life lessons from the garden but there are great examples in your yard/garden. I was talking with my mom who had a great thought on how crabgrass is like your pain or problems in life.

Just like the home owner that bought a house with someone else’s crabgrass problem, we can be born into someone else’s hurts and their pain then it becomes ours. We inherit the pain. Just like my children had grown up for most of their life in a violent house with an alcoholic father they now have the hurt given to them because their dad had pain he didn’t know how to deal with. All he felt was pain so what else could he have given?

Or the pain that is given to a child who is molested, a person that is raped or beaten. I could go on with the pain that is given out to innocent people.

They say the people who hurt people hurt the most themselves is so true. It is because of that crabgrass pain that can be the most difficult to deal with. It is someone else’s pain that became yours. I know that without help that pain wont really go away it might look like it but it’s still there just waiting for the new season so it can germinate and grow stronger.

I am thankful for people who are there to help us deal with our pain. I think God works through these wonderful souls. He is there just waiting to help take care of our crabgrass.

He is only a prayer away and will do the heavy backhoe work replacing the old with the new making a transformation for the better a new and wonderful crabgrass free life.

Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.















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The Last Time


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I was scrolling through Facebook, yes I do that a lot but as I was scrolling I stopped and was looking at a post of a very fast and very high roller-coaster that looked so incredibly fun I realized something that brought a tear to my eyes. I thought when was the last time I went on one?

I know it was a while ago, my kids were teens. It was our last real vacation together. I look back now realizing it was our last time together before growing and moving on. I think if I would have know that was our last one I would have relished it more. Maybe less complaining of my feet hurting or the heat and a little more enjoyment of the fact I had my teens happy to just be with me. We did enjoy the roller-coasters until the very end when we had to file out of the park with the last few remaining people as they closed for the day. With laughter filling the air as we walked to the car talking of our favorite things that happened or even at the long lines we waited in. We all had fun but didn’t realize it for what it was. For me it was the last time to ride on a roller-coaster and for my kids it was the last of their carefree childhood.


That’s just it we all have our last times, we all have the last hug or hand holding, the last time to tuck a little one in.The last time we see or kiss a loved one. The last day of work, or favorite pass time or maybe the last time we get to enjoy eating a favorite dish.It is never marked with fireworks or a goodbye party, instead it is always done in such a quiet way you didn’t know it was the last time until looking back.

Maybe because our last times are always in such a quiet way we should  make the most of each small little thing every day because you never know if it is your last time.


Psalm 90:10&12

10  Our days may come to seventy years,
or eighty, if our strength endures;
yet the best of them are but trouble and sorrow,
for they quickly pass, and we fly away.

12  Teach us to number our days,
that we may gain a heart of wisdom.


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A Goat-head Weed

If you have never heard of this weed that only means you are blessed to live in a place where other plants can grow well because the climate is either very nice or you have humidity. This plant thrives where nothing else does so for those of us that know this dreaded plant you understand the pain of having it over take your yard or the massive pain from stepping on one of the stickers that make walking on hot coals look like a piece of cake.


As this weed grows it spreads like an octopus and its tentacles. It blooms small yellow flowers and to the person that does not know this awful plant you would think it looks almost pretty but don’t be fooled that is where the thorn like no other will grow.

This thorn is in the shape of a goats heat with points on each end of the head. It can take down the strongest person and flatten the best of any bike tire.  My children learned to stay on the side-walk thanks to this plant but even then you aren’t a 100 percent safe.

I noticed this plant the other morning on my walk and thought where did that come from? I love weeding and thought I stayed on top of it but no I had one of the worst weeds to pull growing at the end of my drive way by the side-walk. I hadn’t noticed it before and knew that when I came home I would need to pull it.

I went to pull weeds because when you go to pull one you see all the little ones that are coming and I realized that goat-head I had pulled a few weeks ago but left some of the root. Now it was back bigger than ever with yellow flowers that will turn into thorns that will fall off harming everyone in its path.

That got me thinking again on our thoughts.

I have a certain thought that is just like that goat-head. I think I have dealt with it all seems fine but out of nowhere I feel hurt or have anger that comes out and I think what happened but its my goat-head that I have left part of its root and it began to grow even larger, if I don’t take care of it then it will grow some awful thorns that shed off harming others.

I have been slacking off with the weeding of my house and thoughts but I am sure I’m not alone.


Proverbs 4:23
” Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.


“Your mind is a garden. Your thoughts are seeds. You can grow flowers or you can grow weeds. – Ritu Ghatourey





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The Youngest

The other day I was on Facebook and laughed maybe a little to hard at something I read, it was “Well-behaved firstborn gave me the confidence to be a good mom. My wild child second kid taught me to not judge other mothers.” Ooh so true and funny, as a mom of a very well-behaved first-born daughter and a very lively second born son.  I read that and thought no truer words were ever written.

I was able to breathe, take breaks look nice and stay clean with my daughter, in fact I would look at other moms and wonder why they looked so exhausted. I felt like I had what it took to be a mom.

Then along came my son, everything was different. From pregnancy, birth and to now. Just how simple and easy my daughter was that is how challenging it was/is with my son. I can remember like it was yesterday the sheer and utter exhaustion I felt at just a week after I had him. I felt such a kindred spirit with those other moms. In the store we would give a knowing nod of “you got this” or “I feel your pain”. I now had such compassion for those other moms because I was now one of the walking dead. It was about a year after my son was born I finally was able to have both legs shaved at once. Things did get some easier but I learned never to judge another so harshly. You never know what someone is dealing with or the shoes they are walking in, and yes I did leave the house in unmatched shoes and one time instead of scrub bottoms my pajama bottoms but I found kindness and laughter I never knew.

My son turned my easygoing world upside down but I wouldn’t have it any other way. The joy, laughter and his energy is captivating. He has charisma that over flows from him. To an extent I have my son to thank that I am a better, definitely kinder, non judging person.

Ephesians 4:32
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
1 Peter 3:8
Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.

This picture from my daughter’s wedding says it all, I don’t even need to point out which one my son is.


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What to Wear

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In the middle of almost each season I get in a funk with what to wear. I look in my closet wishing a clothing elf would come in the night to bring new clothes. i end up pushing back the clothes with no idea what to put on. Taking a little longer to get dressed.  In the winter I get sick of layers and in summer I get tired of the lack of them. Even in spring I look forward to shorts or my summer dresses but in the Autumn I never have that problem. I get to wear snuggly clothing without having to add layers to them, each out fit in this great season I look forward to wearing.

As you can guess I am in that funk now, today I was so sick of my summer clothes. I don’t have many and even when I had a larger closet I still got sick of them.  I know this happens when I am ready to move on to the next season. I don’t give the same amount of care as when the season first starts. Maybe its just the heat but I also haven’t had the same spring in my step as I did when summer began and I was sporting my “new’ summer dress.

I was thinking we (myself included) have this same problem when it comes to how we treat others. We can start off with being kind and loving even looking forward to being nice, then grow tired. It does take work and just like how I get sick of my clothes but I still need to get dressed anyway. We all have some form of interaction with eachother so why not just be kind? Since we all live on this great planet maybe giving more care on how we treat others would be a great start.  I love how Gandhi said it “If you want to change the world, start with yourself.”

I will start with me by dressing for autumn each day because I see such a change on the mornings when I decide to wear kindness, it never goes out of fashion and I have a spring back in my step even with the heat.

As we get dressed each day and we decided what to wear for our bodies we also can decide to clothe our selves with “compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and a huge one for me patience.


Colossians 3:12-14

12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.


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A Bad Haircut

I like the quote that Heraclitus, a Greek philosopher said “change is the only constant in life.”. I have fully embraced this thought with a lot of my life, especially with my hair. I have never been one to keep the same haircut or style for long. I may come back to some favorite ones but only after several others have been tried. In fact I have a cycle of sorts, I have it long then get it chopped off every few years.

Who knows why I do this, after a cut/style that doesn’t seem to work I’ll complain briefly, grow it out and try another style, My poor loved ones. After months of sending hair cuts to a few of my very close family/friends I decide on one of them sent off the Pinterest picture and said I was going for it, they weren’t to surprised only supportive.

Armed with a picture of a lovely feminine shag pixie I went to a salon that takes walk-ins and just my luck I get taken back without waiting. I show the women my picture and she seems to understand what I want, so I sit back and enjoy myself. I see that after she takes off my long ponytail she goes for the front but is going for the cut that would be a lot shorter than what I was thinking, I ask her about it but she assures me she understands what I want and everything will be fine.

Everything was not fine, at the end I look to see that my hair was anything but a feminine shag! I looked in horror,  I didn’t hold back. I became a very BOLD out spoken women. In short I didn’t pay full price. I believe that everyone in the salon knew I was not happy, I could hear the intake of breaths as I spoke. I left wanting to cry, not wanting to be seen again or for at least for 6-8 weeks. I sat in my car for a few moments fuming then had the thought that I would color my hair because that would help, right?

No, coloring my hair didn’t help and for most of Saturday I acted like a spoiled child.

As I woke and had my prayer a wave of remorse came over me, I felt awful for how I acted. I couldn’t believe I was so wrapped up in my hair that I felt I wasn’t me any more, it only reminded me of all the many changes and how I feel I am not being heard and how I am not where I thought I would be at this stage in my life.

I never thought that my marriage would have turned out the way it did, but my life became better.

I never thought I would lose a child between my daughter and son, but instead I have two wonderful children who are now young adults who I had the pleasure seeing grow.

My list could go on with how things don’t go according to plan or how I would want them but that same list would also show how things went even better than planned.

God worked on my heart that morning. I have been going through so many changes in my life as of late and some have been ones I never saw coming. I realized that just like my hair I didn’t get what I wanted but that’s ok, I still got a change and a lot cooler hair style for this very hot summer, it will grow back but healthier and better.




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When my daughter lived at home we  liked to watch the show “What Not to Wear” . We would laugh at some of it, almost cry at other times but for the most part we thoroughly enjoyed seeing people transformed to s better version of themselves.

I always felt I could have been a great candidate for the show. Fashion has never been my talent but I do like it, maybe that’s why when watching the show I felt better knowing I wasn’t the only one walking around looking like a hot mess.


Some of the people on the show would go along with all the adjustments enjoying the guidance and fully embrace the change. Others would get upset and not trust the process, they would argue and insist their way was better until one of the experts would point out that their friends/family did get them on the show. They would then allow their clothing to be put in a trash can. Then off they would go with the experts to shop for clothing that would complement the body parts that should be shown and hide the problem areas. They would be shown how to apply make up and get a great hair cut/style that brought out their best features. At the end they would walk a little taller and keep their head a little higher. After they saw their new reflection they would not believe it was them.



I would like to think I would go along happily but if I think about it, in life I can be hardheaded, stubborn and think I know what is best. I tend to think that the master designer needs some guidance on how things should be. I can hold on to things that should be tossed, not wanting the new.

Change can be so scary. Clearing out the old and embracing the new can be so terrifying that we might need time to say good-by. We might need time to mourn so that when those tears are dry are faces can be cleaned and makeup applied showing our best features. If we leave our life in the hands of the expert it can happen. We can be that better version of our self that God always new was there. He just needed us to let go and cooperate.

Isaiah 43:18-19

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. 19 See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”

Psalm 139:13-14

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

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Encouraging One Another


My grandson who loves to give hugs even at the big age of five decided to give my daughter the cold shoulder as she dropped him of at kindergarten. He woke up feeling a bit grumpy and not wanting to cooperate with her. This only left one option and that was a good talking to about behaving differently or consequences were going to happen.

As to be expected this did not go over well. So as she dropped him off she bent down and asked for a hug, he then said in a very loud voice “no” and walked to get in line. All the other kids in his class witnessed this. They got out of line and piled on top of my daughter trying to give her hugs.

She told me this out of concerned for the  “stranger danger” aspect and I totally understand that but what I took from it got me thinking.

Those little children heard that she needed a hug, they saw she bent down in hopes of getting one and then they heard the “no” and watched her son walk away. They could have just turned and walked into the class room with some just feeling bad for her.

They didn’t just feel bad, they took action and gave her what they could. They gave her what they heard and saw that she needed.

Why is it that when we grow up we tend to only see the “stranger danger” and not the need. So because of the fear of the stranger the need is not met. I understand we need to be wise but how many time, myself included do we let our fear get in the way of encouraging others.


Proverbs 12:25
“Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad. ”


Ephesians 4:1-3
“I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. ”


1 Thessalonians 5:11
“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing”